This work aims to comprehend the experience of being oneself and being with in conjugal situation in the contemporaneous world. To articulate a possible comprehension such subjective landscape, we discuss the dominant processes in our culture to constitute the subjectivity, taking into account the individualistic subject´s ethics of efficacy and of consume. The social and conjugal relationships in such scenery are a critical preoccupation among clinical and social psychologists; they are concerned by the modes of being as a thing, which promote exclusion of difference: being oneself and being with other have been suffering tension by the individualization which creates a rupture in the mode of being with. To reflect upon that experience, three couples, living different modes of conjugal situation, were interview. The interpretation followed the Analytical of Sense Method. Each couple presented his own proper comprehension mode for being with in conjugal situation. A comprehension of the man´s mode of being, by the scrap in conjugal situation would be undertake like being among tension. The conjugality could be characterized by wobbliness least or minor among moments of fusion and moments of differentiation between the couples. Also pointing to a well being as the sense direction to be with the other. The participants elaboration of experience made possible to show how culture articulates with a clinical existential dimension and the culture towards the contemporaneous man´s mode of being as being-in-the world- with-others by being oneself. The contribution of this work is introduce the difference like possibility by being oneself including the collective and the others.